There were kilts, there was fizz, there were fascinators. There was storytelling. There were tears and laughter. There was Buckfast and Tequila to toast the couple. There was a first dance. And I was home long before the last dance.
Lou identifies as gender fluid and it was really important for both to feel understood, valued and supported in their ceremony.
3 simple things stood out when I started planning with Sarah and Lou.
- Lou is gender fluid, so prefers the personal pronoun ‘they’ rather than ‘she’. So that’s not complicated to sort.
- Neither Sarah nor Lou identify with the notion of ‘bride and groom’… so we talk about the ‘wedding party’, not the ‘bridal party’. That’s not complicated either.
- At the end of the wedding, when heterosexual couples might opt for a name change and the annoucement: ‘I give you Mr and Mrs [Smith]’, Sarah and Lou simply wanted ‘I give you the newly weds’. Again, not complicated.
Whatever a couple needs, I promise to do my best to help them craft a ceremony that feels right for them. That respects their choices. That is unique.
I will always stand up for their right to love.
"We barely have words to express what a contribution you made to our special day (and performing under pressure due to lateness!)
"Your ceremony was beyond special for us, full of our personality, and fitted us so well.
"We had SO many comments on how much it felt like us, how it helped people to know our story, that people learned new traditions and how great you were. Also an appreciation for the LGBTQ+ family too!
"It really was absolutely beautiful. A huge thank you from Lou and I.
Sarah and Lou"